How to Cure Loneliness

There is a worldwide epidemic of loneliness, especially among single women. We live in overcrowded cities where hundreds of people brush past us each day without even sharing a smile. When we are stopped, we instantly pass judgment on the individual to assure ourselves that they are harmless. As we arrive home, too many of us feel a strange sense of relief and sadness because, honestly, the joy of having some alone time has worn off.

God never intended for any of us (not even singles) to experience loneliness. Genesis 2:18 tells us that after God created Adam, He said, “…It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him” (NLT). The world was created and populated because God was building a loving family that He could fellowship with. No person was to be isolated. 

The Apostle Paul said, “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love” (Romans 8:38, NLT).

No single has to experience loneliness. One of the primary roots of loneliness is the fear of judgment and rejection. All over the world, some loving individuals and families would welcome our friendship and companionship if we would step out in faith. If we have allowed ourselves to become isolated, there are three ways that we can combat loneliness.

First, tap into the love of God. The Word of God tells us that God is love. However, if we suffer from loneliness, this is an indication that we haven’t allowed God’s love to saturate our spirit, body, and soul. The Bible is a love letter from God to us. The best way to experience God’s love is through prayer, meditation, and Bible study. It is not possible for any human being to know God, experience His love, and continue to feel sad, lonely, and isolated.

Second, we can connect with a local church home and get involved in one of the ministries. Churches welcome visitors and truly need community involvement in their programs. Some of us belong to a local church, but we are not connected through friendships and involvement. Others have left church offended or never joined a church. Either way, our Lord created the church for believers to connect, love, and care for one another. Overall, the worldwide church community does an excellent job of creating a new loving family for thousands of local residents. “So I say to you: Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you” (Luke 11:9, NIV).

Third, we must forgive anyone who has hurt us and where it is possible, begin to reconnect broken family ties. Of course, this requires patience, judgment, and prudence. Usually, some family members will welcome hearing from us, while others need continued prayer support.

Loneliness feeds on the lie that “Nobody cares.” The truth is that there are many caring people in the world. In fact, the Bible says, “a neighbor is closer than a brother” (Proverbs 27:10). To cure loneliness, we must be willing to challenge defeating thoughts and risk reaching out to form new acquaintances.

It’s Time To Get Closer!

I thank God for all the resources and mercy He has shown to you, me and the thousands of people who have been hit by local disasters. Through all of this, we are constantly reminded to stay close to those we love and our local neighbors.  Misunderstandings, strife and confusion hurts everyone. In this season, stay encouraged! God is sending HELP, raising up helpers and more resources than ever to help each of us rebuild, restore and refresh our love and our lives!  Let’s keep one another lifted in prayer and stay connected.

When We Don’t Know

Despite all our experience, testing and speculating, God has made it clear (through nature) that we don’t have all the answers. As leaders and servants, its more noble to admit that we don’t have an answer rather than to charge ahead or deliberately mislead others. Challenges stretch our faith and encourage us to reach out to the Holy Spirit for clarity and to remain connected to His wisdom and power.

Fear Nothing

Unlike most of us, Jesus didn’t suffer from fear, doubt, anxiety and depression. In fact, He told us over and over, “Fear nothing!” I believe he was fearless for 4 reasons: 1) He had an intimate relationship with His Father, God, 2) He knew He was the Son of God, 3) Through prayer, He knew the will of God, 4) He was determined to do God’s will (not His own). Ironically, we too can have a close relationship with God. We can stay mindful that as believers, we are God’s sons (and daughters.)  Finally, we can reach out to the Spirit of God as we make choices. Staying connected to our Father God through daily prayer and mindful obedience gives us the confidence to fear nothing because (like Jesus) we will know that all the armies of heaven support us!

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